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Are you Resourced and loving it ?

The New Year in full swing already beautiful changes on the horizon. I hear so many stories about connection in our communities and people are inspired by dark events to do and bring health and healing and joy and happiness back into our communities it is wonderful. Speaking of being inspired what inspires you or resources you to be connected and balanced in your life ? Get that dose of amazing life juice literally, physically mind and spirit. BodyMindSpirit. Have you had your plus sign today are laughing enough ? Amusement moves energy. so here is a big cheers to you to your wonderful inspirations and to resource yourself first before anything else. And yes listening to your favorite song really loud and singing along would be one of those things ….. Happy Resourcing

Here is to creating ……

Welcome to 2013 we are well into it and its a fantastic year. No matter where you are at, there is always opportunities to grow, love, shine, be well, have fun, be happy, joy and on and on it goes I am looking forward to all the magic and miracles that will be created. whohoooo to 2013 and remember:
If you limit your choices only to what seems possible or reasonable, you disconnect yourself from what you truly would like to create. Here is to some amazing creating ……

Have a very Merry… Holiday 2012/2013

The time of Magic and Forgiveness is here spreading like wildfire to enjoy by all young and old, wise and otherwise :} I am wishing you all a wonderful Holiday and a wonderful lovefilled joyous, abundant and miracle filled 2013. Till soon with much love

A Journey into the unknown ….

we take this journey every day, every day is new even though we do tasks that we do almost every day getting up, brushing your teeth etc. In truth every day is new, the way you feel the way you even look on any given day. Once you become aware of that wonder that change is evident on a daily basis and we undergo it even though we might think its all the same… magic can set in and surprise you. Awareness to the wonders of the day the minute the hour is an incredible gift. It is merely a slight shift in consciousness becoming aware of how your inner landscape is on any given day. You can play with this by checking in how you feel when you wake up in the morning keep it simple and see if you can have a child like approach be curious about what you might discover and most of all have fun.

By doing this on a regular basis it becomes much easier to move into or do things we set out to do for example a move a change in jobs, careers, an adventure something you never done before etc. Once the awareness of yourself is there the joys and wonders of shifts as we move through our live become fun. And taking bigger steps or even leaps become much simpler and you can enjoy the journey.

Having fun to journey into the unknow….. I see you on the other side

much love


Celebrating our Differences……..

So your watching things on TV or reading articles on various things and start with “I cant understand how people can ……” probably because it does not fit into your category of what I call “right or wrong”. Any time we enter this category or place of “Right or Wrong” we enter a place of war or helplessness. War takes sides, war is the struggle to make somebody wrong and violently beat someone into submission. Helplessness is the traumatized aftereffect.
This mentality is all around us, the judgements we grow up with right or wrong etc.
Inherently we are not wired this way, our capacity is so beautifully open and curious once we are connected. The disconnection from the Universe, the planet we live on, the globe, natural laws, what living means and then from ourselves, segregation from self and others, causes us to bathe in this mentality.
What can you do ?
Take a deep breath, Inspiration is letting spirit back in literally, when you inhale consciously it takes you to your inner pathways and becoming aware what is happening and where the roadblocks are in your internal world. It also brings the awareness back to you. From here you can check out your activation what is really happening. For example you are having a conversation with someone who has a different opinion, and lets say you and the other person are both equally passionate about your belief…. You are both right, its just different perceptions, different consciousness. Instead of becoming hardened and defensive you could see where this person got there ideas from .. none judgmental and really taking an interest in how the opinion or consciousness is formed.
You might be amazed at what you find.
For example I had a friend who had a very different idea about politics that I had. When we would talk her opinions in no way shape or form reflected who she was as a person, which was very confusing to say the least. This is a typical disconnection from self that is mirrored in the macrocosm of someone’s belief.
Celebrating our differences will take us away form judging people, places and things and actually bringing curiosity back and leaving fear in the dust, and yes freedom.
Try it out next time you have a conversation with someone who has a different opinion breathe, check in with yourself and see if you can be curious about whats happening inside of you and being present for what is presented in front of you. And yes in front of you is just another aspect of yourself which has the most amazing potentiality for healing.
Have fun and play.

with much love Kismet

What are you really afraid of……

well most would answer that question in a doom and gloom kind of way, for example: I am afraid of having no money, or scared of being left alone, or whatever danger lurks in your life that could be a possibility, a whole lot of “what if’s”
What you are actually scared of is your brilliance, every one of us is amazing and beautiful and resourceful etc. in your very own way. One major downfall to this is the comparisons you make, like well he is so much more rich then me, or she has it so much easier then me etc. these are nice little detours to go around your inner landscape so you dont look at what needs weeding within you and what needs nurturing. A constant running in your head of judgements of self or others (any judgement is self judgement), condemnation of your actions or none actions and on and on it goes. When you drop all these smoke screens and get to connect with yourself with what is true and see yourself as the jewel that you are YOU start to step into a magical world of creation, enjoyment, bliss, fun, connection etc.

Becoming aware of what is alive within you, if it is a lot of rummaging of judgements for example and you become aware of that you can celebrate that = validate yourself for noticing what is alive with in you and then from there the stepping of the treadmill becomes easy. Simply the awareness of what is alive is a major step in lifting the fog, so once you notice you can then go to: Ease for example, or whatever else you would like to experience at that moment. Having fun with it all and enjoying the process ……….

and Remember to play, play play

much love and enjoy your process.

Getting off the train to stressville ….

Finding yourself in distress and looping or bathing in that energy is not fun. Taking a moment and shifting out of stress or any emotions that we do not enjoy and overtakes us is a possibility.
Getting off the train to stress Ville ….
Beauty exist everywhere and connecting with that is an innate resource. A Resource is a source of support, or aid, especially one that can be readily drawn upon when needed.
Finding beauty and gratitude will lead you very quickly to letting go of energies that don’t serve you anymore. If you find yourself distressed take a moment and get into your felt sense, get in touch with your sensations, really get into how it feels in your body, and just notice it……. then shift to gratitude what are you grateful for, get at least 5 things you are grateful for and, really feel, smell, hear it in your body… get in touch with your sensations where do you feel gratitude in your body, let it spread. You can go back and forth, shift from stressed sensations to gratitude sensations, play enjoy have fun with it see what happens. You can also connect with your Joy remember a moment in your life where you felt utter joy where is that in your body, what sensation lets you know its joy? Follow it let it spread bathe in it and watch what happens.
If you have any questions please feel free to contact me.


“Everybody talks about peace; nobody talks about justice.”

These are the famous words of Peter Tosh.

This phrase reminds me of how we say we want peace, stop the violence. In order to do that, we need healing and we need to understand how we, as individuals and as a collective, create violence.

At the root of violence is trauma and basic needs not being meet, which also constitutes as trauma.

Our basic needs are shelter, air, movement, sexual expression, water, touch, rest, play, peace, love, celebration, expression of rituals, as well as choosing and pursuing our dreams, goals, etc. If these basic needs are not met, our well-being is threatened and that constitutes as trauma.

Let’s take a look at trauma in order to better understand it. Trauma is a big word and there seems to be a lot of confusion about what constitutes as trauma. There are several different kinds of trauma:

• Extraordinary events such as earthquakes, genocide, war, religious persecution, oppression, and captivity;

• Ordinary events such as car crashes, accidents, surgical or medical procedures, life threatening illnesses, falls, sudden or unexpected losses, and the birth trauma in mainly western cultures;

• Shock Trauma such as an unexpected or frightening event that happens too fast for our nervous system to assimilate, resulting in a disorganization of the nervous system and triggering feelings of intense fear and loss of control;

• Developmental trauma is a consequence of an ongoing miss attunement within either the child-parent or child-caregiver relationship (e.g., childhood neglect and physical or emotional abuse);

• Developmental shock trauma are Experiences occurring during developmental stages that impair the completion of various brain developments

• Post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) is the most frequently discussed and is a natural response to an overwhelmed nervous system. It is interesting to note that PTSD is usually labeled as a disorder, even though it is more accurately described as a natural response to an overwhelmed nervous system = stress response.

In short, we can say anything that overwhelms the nervous system or puts us into a state of helplessness is traumatic. For example, if someone experiences gender or racial discrimination and is unable to respond in a way that protects themself, then helplessness sets in. Helplessness is, of course, deadly to our well-being. Nature has provided almost all living creatures with a very similar nervous system response to threat and danger, and only one of Earth’s species develops long-term, traumatic after effects, the Human.

Why is That ?

What happens when a traumatic event or situation occurs? Our innate response to threat or danger is to fight, and if that is not an option we flee, and as a last resort we freeze.

Our body is an amazing chemical lab once danger or threat is imminent, Adrenalin is released in order to have enough energy to complete the action that needs to take place to get out of danger. Various systems in our body shut down (e.g., digestive system) and opiates (e.g., endorphins) are flushed through the system in order to feel no pain and to once again fulfill the task or action that needs to take place in order to get us out of danger.

When the fight or flight process is interrupted, we start to freeze and the survival energy circulates within our body to find resolution. The innate response that occurs after coming out of a freeze would be shaking, trembling, incoherence, etc..

In our current western societies, we mainly focused on the frontal, or rational, brain. So, when our system is trying to find resolution for the original event, our hindbrain kicks in. The hindbrain, or reptilian brain, is the part that we share with other creatures. The hindbrain is somatic-based and reacts seven times slower then the neocortex, or rational brain.

When we start shaking or trembling, people around us often say to us “calm down” or “it’s over” or “it’s safe” or “stop crying” or “shhhhhh” or “no need to shake anymore” or the administration of sedatives may come into play. What this does to our system is pulling us into our rational brain (neocortex) and prevent the release of any excess survival energy.

An ordinary Trauma The Animal

I said earlier that all living creatures have similar nervous system responses. For example, an impala is chased by a lion, causing the lion to stay stimulated as long as the impala fights or flees. This process is part of the innate survival instinct of wild cats, and the fighting or fleeing of the prey indicates to the lion that the prey represents healthy meat.

The impala may see no way out and collapses before being caught—thus exhibiting the freeze response. It appears as if the impala is ill or dead so that the lion will not pursue and kill the prey. The lion does not kill the impala because the predator’s own survival instinct is to back off and to avoid eating diseased meat.

When the danger or threat is over, we can observe the Impala coming back slowly by twitching. The impala’s legs appear to be moving (as if running), its breath is drawn more deeply, and its overall shaking and twitching continues until all the survival energy has been released and the impala can jump back up and run off without any trauma.

What happened inside of the impala, all the energies that got releases, the survival energies (e.g., adrenaline, endorphins) and the shut down of various systems (e.g., digestive system) are finding an innate resolution and complete the task of getting away form the lion hence we see the trembeling, twitching etc.

Since there is a release of survival energy no trauma occurs.

We Humans have the same innate response the Healing Vortex.

An Ordinary trauma the Human

As an example of an ordinary trauma, let’s take a look at a car accident. An impact occurs and the car comes to a halt, and we are alive. Our body may start shaking, trembling, or trying to move a certain way in order to relieve ourselves of any excess survival energy that arose during the collision. When somebody arrives at the crash scene, they may ask questions such as, “are you ok?” or “what’s your name?” or “how old are you?” or “what day is today?” These questions pull us out of our innate healing vortex where the excess survival energy could find resolution and, instead, pull us into the neocortex, or frontal brain, causing a split between the brain parts.

The triune brain consists of the rational brain (neocortex), the limbic brain (emotional), and the hindbrain (reptilian). These are the brain parts that become split if we do not achieve resolution and, as a consequence, this split results in a disruption of our Bodymindspirit connection. One could think of this disruption as our system being taken offline. We stop shaking and twitching in our desperate attempt to appear “normal,” thus interrupting our innate response to heal.

Of course we do this for ourselves as well cause we desperately want to appear “NORMAL”. Meaning normal to the standards of our social cage. At this moment in our societies there is no allowance for any discharge of trauma or for taking care of oneself. It is denied cause there is no acceptance of such and our lives are not geared towards self-preservation.

This Boundary rupture or overwhelmedness of our nervous system causes many symptoms related to the survival energy’s trying to find resolution.
Our system goes so far as to reenact situations to find resolution. This reenactment can look like numerous falls, reoccurring accidents, or reoccurring abusive relationships, and getting sick as a result of the survival energy continuing to run through us to find resolution.


Let’s look one more time at our internal chemical lab and remember that opiates such as endorphins get release. Endorphins are basically happy chemicals; hence, there is a reward system in place for trauma—it is endorphinergic. When triggers occur such as getting into a car after a car accident, or any kind of smell, light, time, anniversaries of events, the child (birth trauma), certain situations, touch, sound, etc. our system reacts. Now remember the split between the rational, limbic and somatic brain.

For example somebody gets triggered by the pitch or tone in somebody else’s voice, the system reacts and does so by defending itself against the original threat or danger. Which of course has no relation, other then the trigger for the reactionary, to present time. The rational brain helplessly watches over maybe an emotional or physical outburst as the system tries to find resolution to the original threat or danger.

Destruction and violence are infringements; the totality of a being is interrupted.

The attraction of destruction lies in the fight or flight principal, which is our innate response when we are under attack. Without discharge, we can get stuck in the pattern of being constantly defensive or in the opposite of being frozen in time.

Violence erupts when there is no resolution and remember there is a reward system in place (i.e., the release of endorphins). So, by releasing endorphins we get rid of the stress and anxiety caused by trauma meaning the overwhelmedness of our nervous system; however the survival energy stays with us until it can find resolution.

A soldier coming back from war playing video games pertaining to war or shooting etc. this constant reenactment, which is a disassociating from the present time, when life is not under threat helps momentarily to release stress yet the survival energy is a constant since it has not found resolution.
This process of endorphin release, this reflex of trying to find resolution determines a lot of social behavior.

All of this happens on many levels culturally, governmental and in media etc.

Macrocosm to Microcosm

Our Media is violent driven by watching continuously various traumas our nervous system gets overloaded bit by bit.

Looking at how our standard’s of ‘Normal” are, we can say we are a nation of disassociated people.

• Abandoned childhood attunement to birthing methods;
• Early childhood (prior to 6 months) abandonment via the daycare system;
• Families with two working parents;
• Television as the connective tissue holding families and friends together in a kind of commune;
• Government supported segregation that allows fear-based messages to be the overriding base.

Hence we are prone to a fear base control.

We have created this disassociation and we need a cultural shift a change in perception of what is safe and what is not.
If we are kept in a helpless state we will continue to be traumatized.

The institution’s of a culture define the controls that make us helpless and if we are helpless we will continue to be traumatized by minor or major negative life events.

The cultural shift in allowing our innate trauma resolution to take place freely and welcomingly, without judgment and having our internal clocks or self preservation honored, by being ASSOCIATED with self and therefore with others would be a truly free and welcoming society.

We have an amazing innate ability to heal and, as humans, we want to fulfill our happiness. So, by our associating and by our having healthy and self-preserving connections and boundaries, we heal ourselves, our families, our cities, and our nation.

Loving and positive conflict solutions, with the understanding that everybody’s needs can be met and that everybody deserves happiness and health, abundance and an amazing life to there own liking.